It can be hard to place something you really need to tackle on the back burner, but you have to realize that doing so is the only way to ensure that you’ll finally be able to pursue it with success. Your confidence will keep snowballing when you reach that hardest habit, you’ll finally have enough mojo built up to attain it. Start with the habit that will be easiest to gain the confidence you garner from mastering it will carry over to your next hardest habit. Cultivating new habits works in the same way. The idea behind the plan is twofold, that one, once the first debt is paid, you can take the money you were paying towards it and start using it to pay off the next debt, and two, that the satisfaction you’ll get from knocking out the first little one will keep you motivated to wipe out the rest. And there you are, back at square one.ĭave Ramsey has a snowball debt plan in which he recommends paying off your smallest debt first.
You’re juggling a bunch of balls and eventually you get tired and they all fall to the floor. But changing one habit is hard enough changing five at the same time is usually impossible. I do this too-you start feeling unhappy about your life and so you make a list of all the things you need to change, believing that starting the next day you’re going to totally transform yourself! It makes you feel really pumped. Many men I know never change because they always try to improve everything about themselves at the same time. If you’re not happy with where you’re at with your habits, below I’ve provided a few timeless tips that great men have employed to become the men they wished to be. They can never find that groove, where the habits that make you stronger, healthier, and happier become almost automatic, giving you that feeling so central to a satisfied life: that of making continual progress. Every day is a struggle between what they want to do and what they end up doing instead. Men who feel like life is hard often have failed to form good habits. As you begin to see yourself as a failure, it becomes a terrible self-fulfilling prophecy. It’s psychologically taxing to make the same decisions every day, and the more you fail to live up to your goals and break a contract with yourself, the less confident you become, and the less success you have with each new endeavor. When you have to decide every single day whether you’re going to go the gym, plan out your day, or read a good book, when you leave those choices up to your whims, to that day’s circumstances and your current mood, you’ll usually end up punting. If you want to feel less restless and become more productive, it’s imperative that you break from your bad habits and develop good ones. When you take a look at the habits in your life, what are they saying about you? If you want to be physically fit, you need the habit of exercise. Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do.” If you want to be productive, you need the habit of planning. So its possible that one of the things above was a linchpin for some other downstream habits and by changing that one, the others became easier to change.Īnd also, like some of the comments below, when we hit a "breaking point, crisis, or rock bottom moment" that can often make the discomfort associated with not making the change stronger than the comfort of engaging in the unhealthy habit.Habits make the man. So the linchpin habit was waking up earlier and doing my workout first thing, this also gave me more time to prep food for a healthy diet. When work got crazy, I found I was a lot more likely to skip my workouts and also eat some form of fast food (using the "I don't have time" excuse). I was also more likely to snooze the alarm and procrastinate because I had less energy and conscious focus.Īnother example would be skipping workouts. I've heard this referred to as a "Keystone Habit" or "Linchpin Habit" which essentially means, if you change this one habit, several other downstream "negative" habits can fall off instantly or much more easily.įor example, when I would drink too much, the next day I was much more likely to binge eat junk food to get rid of a hangover. Hey u/minimalismemma, first off, great work! It is awesome to change a bunch of habits simultaneously and often times can be linked to one primary habit.
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